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How to Handle a Child That Swears (at Any Age!)

For Sunday school teachers to know what to do when a child swears, we need to understand why children swear and how to properly respond—at each age.

Children From 1-2 years

As children learn to communicate verbally, they pass through the following stages:

  1. they imitate sounds;
  2. they imitate simple words;
  3. they use single words meaningfully;
  4. they imitate simple phrases;
  5. they put words together into phrases;
  6. they respond appropriately to sentences and questions.

At this age, children will seldom curse. However, if they do, they usually are repeating words that mean nothing to them.

Model desirable language patterns. Speak in a positive light. Affirm children for using appropriate language. Never swear. If you hear a child at this age swear, ignore the language. If a swearing child doesn’t get any attention, he or she won’t have a reason to continue using that kind of language.

Children From 3-5 years

Preschoolers broaden their experiences as they spend more and more time with peers and adults other than family members. They still imitate words they hear. They eagerly repeat new and different words—such as curse words. Sometimes these children are just repeating the words because they have heard them or they like the sound of these swear words. At other times, children test adults to see what response will result when they curses.

Sometimes they seek laughter and attention. Never laugh at a child who swears, but don’t overreact either. Remain calm. If a child frequently swears, say, “Here’s another way to tell us you’re angry” or “There are many other words we can use—such as fiddlesticks, rats and shoot.” This usually will stop the swearing. If the swearing is a one-time affair, ignore it. If a child is seeking a response and you don’t give it, the swearing will stop. Involving children in meaningful Bible-learning activities will prevent swearing. When children are actively involved, they seldom exhibit behavior that needs to be changed.

Children From 6-11 years

Children at this age are more and more interested in peer approval rather than adult approval. Many of these kids spend much time watching television. Both friends and the media may encourage swearing and cursing. Also, children at this age are learning how to respond to their negative feelings. They may see their friends—or other adults—venting their anger by swearing. If swearing is a one-time or infrequent behavior, the most effective response is to ignore it.

A child who curses incessantly should be taken aside and dealt with directly. Say to the child: “We do not use that kind of language here. If you are upset about something, it is better to say you’re mad rather than to use those words.” When you do intervene, stress that the words are bad, not the child. Work on preventing swearing by planning exciting, meaningful activities for this age group.

Barbara Bolton is a former curriculum consultant and resource specialist in Ohio and has worked with children for more than 35 years.

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4 thoughts on “How to Handle a Child That Swears (at Any Age!)

  1. We have a Bible club in a neighborhood where most of the kids are used to hearing swear words regularly. Of course, we don’t allow them at the club; however, they still pop up sometimes. Usually we only have to to remind the offender (privately) and all is well. However, sometimes we get a child who is rather recalcitrant. These I pull to the side and ask him if he knows what that word means! Sometimes they don’t, but usually they say they do. I ask them to tell me what the word means. Until this day, no child will tell me. After that, I try to help them know that I understand they probably hear those words in other places but it doesn’t please God to talk like that, and at the Bible club, they must not be used. I say, “The children come here to learn about God and the Bible, they must not learn bad words here!”
    Usually I don’t have trouble after that…Now and then something more slips out and the child looks quickly and sheepishly at me! I do think it helps them think even if a word slips out, and hopefully will help them prevent their tongue from speaking like that.

  2. Karen Glovka

    In children 6-12, uncontrolled swearing can sometimes be a sign of a personality disorder, like Tourette’s. Check in with parents if nothing seems to help alter the behavior.

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