Read in 2 mins Leader Resources » Teacher Tips » Elementary Tips » Preschool Tips » Preteen Tips » Special Needs Tips Print / Download Article Facebook Twitter Pinterest Email How to Respond to the Anxieties of Children at All Ages Published: October 9, 2023 Children of all ages face anxieties. Here is what you need to know about these worries, and how you can help ease their concerns. Children’s Anxieties – Ages 2 to 4 Preschoolers are concrete thinkers. So they react fearfully to the unexpected. Things such as darkness, unusual life-size characters, or death are out of their control or experience. Two-to 4-year-olds are usually apprehensive about separating from Mom or Dad. They have an instinctive need for routine, for knowing what comes next. Changes in regular home or classroom routine set off alarm bells in a child’s mind. How to Respond Provide a brightly lit, warm, welcoming atmosphere. Have children come to the same room each week. Establish permanent drop-off and pick-up procedures for parents and children. Allow children to come with one security item, such as a blanket or stuffed animal. Keep your classroom routine simple and consistent. Vary your activities within a set schedule. Staff preschool rooms with the same teacher each week — one who sets consistent behavior limits and boundaries. Emphasize to children that God is loving and in control. Children’s Anxieties – Ages 5 to 8 Children this age think literally and love rules. Fears arise when rules are changed. They become anxious when fair play is violated. They’re afraid they won’t be accepted by others for what they wear, say, or do. Children have anxieties about not being able to give the correct answer or stumbling over the proper words in a prayer or during a Bible reading. They’re worried about looking silly in front of their peers. How to Respond Listen to and observe how children feel. Are they sad? happy? Do they make eye contact? look down at the ground? Always encourage fair play. Tell children that you’ll see that everyone plays by the rules. Don’t force nonreaders to read aloud. Use group prayers to include kids who feel uncomfortable praying aloud by themselves. Plan different activities for children to choose from. Emphasize that God loves them for who they are, not for what they do. Children’s Anxieties – Ages 9 to 12 Older children worry about their self-image. Peer pressure and hormonal changes add to their anxieties. They worry about what it means to “look cool.” Kids have anxieties about the opposite sex and aren’t sure how to act. During these years, many parents divorce and remarry. So kids are often concerned about their family situations. Kids this age also worry about the fragility of life and the finality of death. How to Respond Emphasize God’s love and acceptance to help kids’ self-esteem. Understand and listen to kids’ concerns. Then use Bible lessons that connect with these concerns. Discuss how others cope with that worry or concern. Talk about how God can help them and be their strength. Avoid embarrassing a child in front of a group and acting shocked or overly concerned about a child’s worries. Help kids solve their own problems. Lovingly explore the problem together and ask for the child’s solutions. Talk about how others have solved their worries. Pray together. Peer pressure and poor self image are common anxieties in children of all ages, our KidMin Quick Picks: Stand Strong is a Sunday school curriculum that contains a graphics pack, teaching video, and four complete Bible-based Sunday school lessons that help elementary-age kids explore what it means to live for others’ approval—or for God’s. Looking for more teaching tips? Check out these ideas! © Group Publishing, Inc. All rights reserved. No unauthorized use or duplication permitted. Get our FREE enewsletter! Join thousands of other children’s ministry leaders, getting fresh, helpful ideas delivered weekly to your inbox. Sign Up Please enter valid email address Sign Up Recieve offers and promos from Group? Got it! Would you also like offers and promos from Group? Yes! No Thanks, you're all set!