Read in 2 mins Leader Resources » Teacher Tips » All Other Teacher Tips Print / Download Article Facebook Twitter Pinterest Email How to Help Kids Develop a Christ-Centered Self-Esteem Published: July 21, 2023 If we’re not giving kids Christ-centered self-esteem, we’re leaving them open to losing any self-esteem they have. Find out why. “Oh, what a wonderful picture, Alyssa!” the teacher exclaims as he holds the scribbled drawing aloft. Alyssa beams. But he doesn’t even notice her next drawing. And Alyssa feels like a failure. Alyssa, like almost every child, has given others the power to shape her self-perception. Her need for praise is training Alyssa to see herself through others’ eyes. The problem with this is that others’ images of her won’t always be consistent. And as a result, Alyssa won’t develop a Christ-centered self-esteem. What can we do to develop a faith-based self-esteem in our children? Self-Esteem Defined Simply put, self-esteem is the way children feel about themselves. A child with high self-esteem will… work happily alone; be responsible; tolerate frustration; accept new challenges; and display a broad range of emotions. A child with low self-esteem will: make self-demeaning comments; feel insecure about others’ opinions of him or her; blame others for personal weaknesses; be easily influenced by others; and avoid situations that produce anxiety. Self-Esteem and Faith Children are valued. In Mark 10:13-16, the disciples rebuke the people who bring children to Jesus. Jesus’ response is classic and the basis of all children’s ministry. He says, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children.” Jesus values children, but children don’t always feel valuable. Many experts believe that children’s low self-esteem is generally based on poor skills and incompetence in many areas of their performance. But the truth is that no child is going to perform well in every area. He may be a great speller, but he can’t throw a baseball. She may be a great tap dancer, but she thinks her hair is frizzy. Children each have certain inadequacies they must deal with in an imperfect world. Developing Self-Esteem We can give children the gift of a Christ-centered self-esteem. Here’s how: Let them know how God views them — loved, valued, and esteemed. Say things such as, “You are special to God” or “The Bible says God loves you so much that he has counted every hair on your head!” We can remind children that God loved them enough to pay the highest price for them — his Son’s life. Celebrate each child’s God-given strengths. When a child displays his or her gifts, point the child to the giver. Say something like, “I thank God for giving you your beautiful voice.” Teach children to persevere. If a child has difficulty with a problem, don’t jump in and save the day. Pray with the child for guidance. Then ask questions to help the child think of solutions. Otherwise, your save-the-day help could send the message that the child isn’t capable. As children grasp that their worth is not rooted in how they perform but in their relationship with God and what God says about them, they’ll truly develop positive self-esteem. And their feelings about themselves won’t be subject to whether the teacher praises their drawing each time or not. Want more articles for children’s ministry leaders? Check these out. © Group Publishing, Inc. All rights reserved. No unauthorized use or duplication permitted. Get our FREE enewsletter! Join thousands of other children’s ministry leaders, getting fresh, helpful ideas delivered weekly to your inbox. Sign Up Please enter valid email address Sign Up Recieve offers and promos from Group? Got it! Would you also like offers and promos from Group? Yes! No Thanks, you're all set!