Kids may wonder–and ask you: “If I’m good, will God love me more?” How would you answer that question?
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Preschooler: Tempting to say “yes,” isn’t it, to prompt obedience? But don’t. You’re a model of God’s love for your child, and God’s love isn’t performance based. Does he love us when we’re good? Yes. When we’re bad? Yes. Did he love us enough to send Jesus before we were good? Yes.
Elementary-Age: Use this as a chance to discuss and explore the characteristics of God— and your child’s response to God. Psalm 136 will help your child know God loves him no matter what. Being good or bad doesn’t change how God loves us, but being good shows God we love him.
Preteen: If you’ve believed—or still believe—that God loves you more when you’re good, share your story with your child. Assure your child no matter how tempting it is to believe good behavior wins God’s affection, it’s not true. We don’t obey God because it makes him love us more; we obey as a loving response because he already loves us—and we wish to please him. God’s nature is unchanging. When we grow closer to God, it’s we who change, not God.
Related Scriptures: Read Romans 5:8 and John 3:16 to confirm that God loves us—period! How can God show his love more than by sending Jesus?
This is excerpted from the book, Trust Us…They’ll Ask. 101 hot-topic questions and answers for your preschooler, elementary-age child, and preteen.