When I moved to Colorado to start working at Group,
I left behind a church I had worked at for almost six years.
Recently I was able to make a trip back to visit and I brought with
me some goodies from Group for everyone. My replacement, Skylar, is
an amazing young man of God. I worked with his family at the church
before, and he had always stepped up whenever we needed volunteers.
I left Skylar a few things, including “The Quick Guide to Discipline for Children’s
Ministry: 101 Good Ideas for Bad Behavior.” Not that my kids
were troublemakers, but I remembered how hard it could be when I
first started to change a situation from distracting to a learning
A few weeks ago, Skylar messaged me to tell about how the book
helped him connect with a child in his class. The boy was having a
hard time paying attention. When it came time to talk or work with
other kids, he was very stand-offish. He was a great kid, but
seemed disconnected from the lesson and class.
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Skylar looked into the book I had given him
“I found information on kids who don’t pay attention or are
uninterested,” said Skylar. “It said to ask them about things they
like and try to incorporate that into a lesson. So, I pulled the
boy aside and asked him if he liked the games we played or the
lessons. He just shook his head no. I asked what he liked to do.
And he mumbled ‘Play with my turtles.'”
Skylar took that one piece of information and was able to make a
change. He told the boy that he should bring a turtle to show the
class at their next meeting (if it was okay with his mom).
“He brought it that Wednesday! He was so excited and came as
soon as he could,” said Skylar. “He only came on Sundays normally
but then he came and ever since then, he has been making new
Now that little boy is responding to his teachers and taking
more of an active role in class, all because Skylar chose to make a
connection rather than assuming the boy was a “bad kid.”
It is amazing how a little love and understanding can change a
kid’s life. This week, I want to encourage you to reach out to
those in your ministry that might be like that little boy, like
those who are having trouble making friends, paying attention in
class, or not wanting to participate.
Do you have a story like this? How do you connect with kids who
might not seem interested in what you have to say? Let us know your
thoughts-leave a comment below!