There he sat, under a broom tree (what exactly is a broom tree,
anyway?). He was beaten, battered…burned out! After all the great
victories and the shining moments of faith in this man's life,
Elijah had had it. He wanted out. He couldn't see beyond, well, the
broom tree! " 'I have had enough, Lord,' he said. 'Take my life' "
(1 Kings 19:4).
What brought Elijah to this point?
He had experienced some of the most compelling "ministry moments"
described in the Bible. Remember God holding back the rain until
Elijah spoke? Or God providing unlimited oil and flour for the
widow? God used Elijah to raise this same woman's son from the
dead. Then after three years in the desert waiting on God, Elijah
came back and went head to head with one of the most wicked kings
ever to set foot on the earth -- Ahab, along with his wife,
Finally, a stunning victory over the prophets of Baal and an
Olympian effort racing down a mountain had left Elijah running for
his life. The enemy, in this case primarily Queen Jezebel, had had
it with Elijah, and she was out to get him. Elijah finally came to
a point of giving up. "Just end it all right here, God" was his
pathetic plea. He was burned out on serving the Lord.
Have you ever been there? As children's ministry leaders, serving
as paid staff or volunteers, sometimes we get to the point where we
just want it all to end. We start looking for a way out of our
In spite of the victories -- the child coming to Christ in our
class, the teenager we invested so much in as a child who now lives
a life of faith, the families we've been privileged to impact-our
enemy (or sheer exhaustion) has caught up with us. We feel
isolated, as though we're fighting the battle alone, and we're
overwhelmed. Elijah said to God, "I have been very zealous for the
Lord God Almighty… [but] I am the only one left" (1 Kings 19:10). We, like Elijah, feel we just
can't continue. We just want it all to end.
Is this how God wants us to end up? Of course not. Galatians 6:9 says, "Let us not become weary
in doing good." But how do we do that? How do we keep the
discouragements from overcoming us? How do we keep from
"ministering" to the point of exhaustion -- physically, mentally,
or both -- when we sometimes are out there on our own? Let me
suggest, instead of getting burned out, stay F.I.R.E.D. U.P. Here
are seven ways to do that.
Focus on relationships. Relationships are what ministry is all
about. First and foremost, ministry is about relationship with God.
When you're feeling a little burned out, ask yourself, "How is my
relationship with God?" Are you getting necessary time in God's
Word? Are you spending time in prayer, sharing your heart and
listening to God's heart?
Are you making church attendance a priority? Too often in
children's ministry, we allow our attendance in the church service
to suffer while we serve the kids. This is understandable
sometimes, because serving kids often takes place while the service
is going on. But you must be renewed with worship, teaching, and
fellowship. Don't skip too often.
Family relationships are another high priority. We can pour
ourselves so thoroughly into our ministry that our home
relationships can suffer. Your family is your first area of
ministry concern and, while you might ask your family to make
adjustments to accommodate your ministry to kids, don't focus on
your ministry to kids at the expense of your family.
Finally, remember that ministry to kids is all about relationships
with kids. Sometimes our sense of burnout can result from focusing
too much on trying to make the kids "do" what we want them to do
instead of investing in helping them "be" who God wants them to
Identify your calling. Why are you doing what you're doing? Is it
because you're called by God to do it, or is it because you felt
sorry for someone who was desperate for a preschool Sunday school
teacher? For a season you might step in and assist in an area of
great need, but over the long term, you must be doing what God has
called you to do or your service will surely lead to
What is a calling? It's simply "a divine summons." It might be
something that lasts a lifetime, or it might be an "assignment"
given by God for a shorter time. It's always something you feel
compelled to be part of, to accomplish, or to commit to. Not doing
it leaves a sense of dissatisfaction and incompletion. To stay
fresh in children's ministry, you must have a sense of calling from
Recognize your gifts, abilities, and limitations. In much the same
way as recognizing what God has called you to do, you must also
recognize what you're gifted at, what your past training and
experiences have prepared you to do, and also what you're not good
As a children's pastor, my gifts and abilities are in the areas of
administration, leading and training others, and teaching large
groups of kids. What I'm not gifted at is teaching small groups of
kids. If I were required to do so, I'd be burned out in a matter of
Aligning your strengths with your ministry requirements will not
only help you avoid burnout, but it'll also energize you to
complete the ministry you're called to do. First Peter 4:10 (NLT) says, "God has given gifts to
each of you from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Manage them
well so that God's generosity can flow through you."