Do the kids in your ministry worship at the altar of PBS, CBS,
ABC, NBC, and hundreds of other cable channels? Or would you say
that the kids in your ministry are appropriately entertained
through the high-tech medium of television?
If you’re like most parents and children’s ministers, you’re
concerned about how much television your children watch. And
rightly so. The latest Gallup Organization poll on TV viewing
indicates that 57 percent of Americans spend more than three hours
a day in front of the television, and Nielsen Media Research says
the average American child between the ages of 2 and 17 watches
more than 19 hours of television a week.
The question for us is whether TV viewing is something to
encourage children to shun or to use to shape their faith?
Turned Off to TV
“Television, like a wheat field, has weeds among the wheat,”
says Walt Davis, professor emeritus of religion and ethics at San
Francisco Theological Seminary. “What is weeds to one person might
be wheat for another, and at different times in our lives we might
define weeds and wheat differently. That’s why it’s important that
we talk openly about the values we see portrayed on television. We
will learn from one another.”
Television may not be partial to any one religion but it is, in
a sense, religious. That is, if you define religion as Harvard
theologian Paul Tillich did – that which is our ultimate concern.
Tillich taught that anything drawing us into the mystery of life or
introducing genuine perspective is, in some way, religious. If we
believe that our spirituality involves all of life, even the
ordinary, then we must include the stories we’re drawn to on
television in that spirituality. Most stories on television don’t
tackle explicitly religious or doctrinal subject matter, but many
do skirt around the edges with stories of ethical dilemmas,
life-and-death decisions, and paranormal experiences.
Turned On to TV
It’s not that television promotes any one set of values or
religion, but you can find evidence of all kinds of values and
faith experiences on TV. And scholars of the relatively new
discipline of media literacy generally reject the view that
television “injects” its values into naive and unsuspecting viewers
“Television is a form of communication, and once a message is
delivered to us, there are any number of ways we can interpret and
respond to that message,” says Sister Rose Pacatte, director of the
Pauline Center for Media Studies in Boston.
We as viewers form meaning from what we see on TV. One of the
best ways to enhance that formation is to talk about faith and
values during and after watching a TV show together.
Reverend Dan Wolpert and his wife, Debra Bell, a family practice
physician living in Crookston, Minnesota, brought their two boys up
to be media savvy. They knew their 10-year-old was catching on when
he announced to the family one night after watching an
advertisement for a new car: “These commercials want you to believe
that if you buy this car everything will be perfect.” Wolpert says,
“We have a lot of conversations about how the perfect life is not
about acquiring more possessions.”
Television is neither a child’s best friend nor his worst enemy.
It’s time we remove the generally negative value judgments from an
activity that’s become as common to us as sitting around the
bonfire listening to the village storyteller was to our ancestors.
Television can be a tool, even for something as important as
teaching values and religious beliefs.
Plugging Into Faith
So how do we use television in this religion and values
exploration? You’ve no doubt heard media literacy experts tell you
to watch television with your children. Lots of people do that.
What they fail to do, though, is talk about what they watch in any
meaningful way. The fact is that parents sometimes feel inadequate
bringing up topics of faith and values with kids. The good news is
that it’s easier than you may think!
Beth Merry, a college communications teacher and media literacy
advocate from Bethel, Pennsylvania, always attempts to make a
TV-faith connection with her two daughters, ages 11 and 14. While
watching TV dramas together, she and her husband ask the girls
questions such as, “Do you think what the character did was right?”
or “How would you feel if someone treated you that way?” Merry
says, “It usually leads to a lively discussion about faith.”
Single mom Susan Griffin, an attorney in San Francisco, says her
favorite question to her 7-year-old son while watching television
is, “Which character is your favorite and why?” Griffin says it’s a
great way to learn about what he’s beginning to value in life.
Parents and educators fall into traps when they use television
(or any other medium) to preach or persuade children to adopt what
they think are the most acceptable values. Learn the importance of
the open-ended question combined with judgment-free listening and
you’ll hold the key to a richer relationship with your child. Even
if you don’t like what you hear, it’s valuable to know what a child
is thinking. Creating a nonjudgmental atmosphere doesn’t mean you
can’t give opposing views. Just give views in a way that allows for
a difference of opinion. Faith grows best when it’s given room to
stretch and explore.
Is watching television the only way to engage your child in
discussions of faith and values? Of course not. It may not even be
the best way for you and your child. But if you combine sensible TV
viewing with thoughtful discussion afterward, then what we used to
call the idiot box can be transformed into a box of blessings that
you just might’ve overlooked before. cm
Using TV In Class
Obviously, you can’t watch TV programs with every child in your
classroom, but you can ask questions to connect television to
children’s faith in your lessons. Try these questions to stimulate
- What’s your favorite TV show and why?
- Who is a character on a TV show that you would most want to be
like and why?
- Who is a character on a TV show that you would most not want to
be like and why?
- Are there any TV shows that you think a Christian should not
watch? If so, which ones?
- Are there any TV shows that you think Jesus would enjoy
watching with you? If so, which ones?
- Which family on a TV show is most like your family?
- If you could trade places with any character on television for
a week, who would you trade with-and why?
- How much time do you think is appropriate for a person your age
to watch television each day? Explain.
- Do you think watching television can be harmful or helpful to
your faith in God? Explain.
Teresa Blythe is co-author of Watching What We Watch:
Prime-Time Television Through the Lens of Faith (Geneva Press).
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