Xers, like generations before us, need to serve because service
is the real, powerful expression of God’s love to the world
As a member of Generation X, I’m concerned by my generation’s
absence in the children’s ministries of our churches. Xers are
looking to make their way in the world and the church, but
Generation X has had a hard time finding a place in most
By the time you read this, Generation X (those born between 1961
and 1981) will be close to 80 million Americans — nearly as
numerous a segment of the population as the boomers (born in the
Post-World War II baby boom). My generation looks and acts very
different from our parents and grandparents. It’s not just the
clothes we wear and the way we talk, but it’s also our internal
values and lifestyle choices.
Many things have shaped us, from the perceived end of absolute
truth to the fallout of living among broken homes and
disillusionment with institutions. Yet Generation X has a burning
passion and commitment to offer the church. If recruiting Xers has
been a struggle for you, let me tell you what just might hook
Be yourself. Goatees and hanging out at the
local coffee house aren’t requirements for recruiting Xers, unless
you already do those things! If you try too hard, you’ll probably
turn us off. Just remember that we want to get to know you first,
your ministry second. It’s the personal contact that’s more
important to Xers than institutional involvement. But before you
think this requires deep soul-searching with every Xer you
encounter, think again. Xers simply want to connect with you and
get to know you. And to us, that’s often just the first step to
Tell us a story. We need to hear the stories of
the children in your ministry. To us that’s what makes it real.
Xers know that statistics can be misleading; we hear them
everywhere. And cliches are tiresome; we know the world isn’t that
But stories climb and dive and laugh and demand that we get
involved. Tell us about the people we can touch. Tell us about the
funny thing that happened in the toddler class last Sunday. Tell us
about the kids’ lives who are changed by coming to church. Tell us
the story that’ll show us how we can make a difference.
Give us the chance to serve. Xers, like
generations before us, need to serve because service is the real,
powerful expression of God’s love to the world. Xers want to make a
difference in the lives of people around us. We want to share God’s
Give us feedback — fast. Xers don’t stick
around very long if we don’t feel or perceive that we’re valued. We
value our time and choose not to waste it where we’re not
appreciated. Feedback, however, is the best way to keep us focused
on our potential and the potential of the children.
Watch over a new volunteer. Tell her what she
did well, and also tell her what she can improve for next time.
Don’t be afraid that we’ll leave if you tell us how to do something
better. If we think you want us to succeed, we’ll listen to what
you say-good or bad.
Trust us. We feel important in the ministry
when you give us increased responsibilities — as we earn them.
This is a great way to publicly affirm our potential and confirm
our abilities and giftedness by God. Xers are more likely to first
distrust you as an authority, but we’ll let you earn our trust
slowly. If you show us that there’s more for us to do, inevitably
your trust in us will spark loyalty and creativity as we take
increased ownership of the kids and the ministry.
Remember when you’re thinking about recruiting and keeping
Generation X , we want to help. We need to help because that’s
something we believe in. If we don’t feel like there’s a place for
us working with the kids of your church, we’ll most likely help
Matthew Eckmann is in Colorado Springs, Colorado.