Ministry in the Rear View



How to know when it’s
time to say goodbye to your current position — and begin traveling
down the road to your future in ministry.

Sherry walked inside her church with a heavy
What happened to the joy I used to
feel when I entered these halls?
she wondered. She used to
look forward to Sundays — they were the best part of her busy
week, the most enjoyable part of her full-time role as children’s
minister. Lately, though, it seemed she couldn’t get out of the
church quickly enough after the close of the last service. Her
disillusionment had been gradual; the differences in how she felt
and the distance growing between her and the church insignificant
at first. But over time, the slight differences she initially
overlooked evolved into chasms that gnawed at her. Lately she
couldn’t escape one scathingly honest thought: If I weren’t on
staff here, I wouldn’t attend this church.
As she walked into
children’s church, she mustered the strength to make it through one
more week. Please, God, help me minister to these kids with a
servant’s heart.

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If you’re in ministry long enough, at some point it’s likely to
happen: That nagging sensation in the pit of your stomach turns
into a whisper that seems to be saying, Maybe I should just leave.
But before you act on that whisper and leave your ministry
position, there are important things to consider. First, leaving a
ministry role is a very serious decision with big repercussions. In
my 15-plus years of ministry I’ve resigned from three full-time
positions, and each was a gut-wrenchingly difficult decision.
Leaving is one of the toughest decisions you’ll ever make. Don’t
approach it lightly and don’t make a snap decision based on passing
emotions or circumstances. If you’re seriously considering leaving,
approach the decision with prayer and consideration.

Objectively assess your situation. Begin by
asking, Is the reason I’m considering leaving based on a
difference in opinion or a difference in vision?
To make a
good decision, you must discern between the two. Is the situation
just a matter of taste and style…or is it a philosophy issue? If
it’s a difference in opinion, you’re almost always better off
overcoming the differences and learning to live with them rather
than leaving. A difference in vision or philosophy on the other
hand, is much more difficult to overcome. Ask yourself, Can I
support this church’s or ministry’s vision and philosophy?
at your core, you don’t believe in where the church is going or
feel you can’t support the vision, then it may indeed be time to
look for God’s next step for your life and ministry. Staying in a
position where you’re in conflict with the vision and mission is
dangerous for your character and the health of the church. If you
can’t get in line, get out of the way.

Ask yourself the tough questions. Before you draft
your resignation, do some soul-searching. Not only will this help
you in your decision-making process, but it will also help you do
some honest self-assessment before you begin a new position. Here
are some of the key questions to tackle.

Describe your attitude about your position, your
team, your leaders, and your congregation.

How does your pride play a role in this situation — if at

Have you genuinely tried to talk to your pastor about the
situation? If not, how could you?

Which do you want more: the situation resolved or a way out?

What have you learned about yourself in this situation?

What’s your typical MO (mode of operation) when the road gets
bumpy? Run away or work toward a resolution?

Is your openness and flexibility affecting your feelings? For
example, are you someone who can adapt, or do things generally have
to go your way? When was the last time you were wrong?

When you honestly answer these questions, you’ll know more about
yourself and what’s motivating — or demotivating — you. You may
realize you need to buckle down or refresh your teachable spirit.
You may find a new appreciation for the value of faithfulness, of
sticking it out when things aren’t easy. But you may also realize
you’ve outgrown your role, tried to make the best of a bad
situation for too long, or that you’re in a place where you’ll
never feel satisfied or fulfilled.

Wherever you land after you’ve done the raw, hard work of answering
these tough questions, you’ll be in a better place for it. You’ll
also know when you’ve done all you can do to correct a situation,
clearing your conscience if your departure truly is


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