Three-year-old Joseph Wallace had finally found a haven in his
foster home in Chicago. But the authorities took Joseph from his
foster home and returned him to his mother — a violent, mentally
ill woman. Two months later, Joseph was dead. The mother admitted
she hanged her son with an electrical cord. Tragic cases like this
abound across our country. Social workers are overloaded-some have
more than 200 cases. And they simply can’t manage all their cases
effectively. With 430,000 children in its care, the American foster
care system faces what some experts have called a national crisis.
Phyllis Stoner, a foster care coordinator in Colorado, says the
foster care system across the country is in crisis because of a
severe lack of foster care parents. According to Stoner, states
such as California are resorting to institutionalizing children in
what amounts to orphanages. Dealing with the crisis is more urgent
than ever because children’s lives are threatened. Nationally,
three children a day are killed either in their own homes or in
foster care. Children need safe havens. As a children’s minister,
you can go beyond the walls of your church building and work for
change in the quality of kids’ lives. Use your voice to speak out
against injustices toward children. Use your influence to protect
children through the foster care system. Here’s how.
BECOME A FOSTER PARENT Foster care is a temporary solution for
troubled homes. The goal of foster care is to reunite birth
families. If the department of social services proves to the courts
that a child’s welfare is threatened in his or her home situation,
the child is placed in a foster care home. The birth family may
undergo alcohol or drug rehabilitation, parent training, or
counseling to qualify for the child to be returned. Kids in foster
care need the security a good home can provide while their own
family gets healthy. “These kids need everyday things most children
take for granted,” says Carol White, author of manuals on child
abuse issues. “You don’t have to be extraordinary to provide for
them. They need three meals a day, a clean bed, parents who come
home, shoes, clean clothing, someone who’ll pack their lunch and
get them off to school, baths, a story at bedtime.” Diane, a foster
mother of twins, remembers, “When the boys first came to me at 7
years old, they had never seen a bathtub before.” Another foster
parent remembers a child who thought all children ate out of the
dog’s bowl and had beer with their snacks instead of milk. Besides
offering basic care, Christian families can offer castoff children
the only experience with Christ many will ever know. Children
living in a Christian home see adults work out conflicts without
violence. They hear prayers and happy singing. When children leave
Christian foster homes, they may never brush up against a Christian
again. How can you become a foster parent?
*Qualifications-The qualifications for foster parenting vary
from state to state. Generally, applicants go through screening
that may include a home study, fingerprinting with a background
check for any crimes against children, references, a detailed
self-study, an interview, and a medical exam.
*Placement-Once this screening process is complete, a child
could be placed immediately. The foster parent can choose how many
children to take; however, each state limits the amount to around
four. The foster parent can also choose the age and sex of the
children. After each placement, the foster family can take a break
and have no children until ready again.
*Maintenance-While children are placed in a foster care home,
the state will pay a fee for the child’s basic needs. Each child
has a caseworker who develops a personalized treatment plan and
will visit in the home at least once a month.
SUPPORT FOSTER CARE PARENTS If full-time foster care is not for
you, there are other ways to get involved. Perhaps your church
could try what has worked for other churches:
*Educate church families. Invite a child welfare worker to your
church to speak and answer questions. Include current foster
parents. Provide practical information about kids in crisis and
what people can do to help. Include foster care information in your
family section of the church library. Contact your county’s
department of social services for materials. Help dismantle the
myths around foster care. Minority and older children aren’t more
trouble. ChiIdren are very rarely taken from parents on a whim. And
even though abuse happens in foster homes, foster parents who give
good care and nurture far outnumber abusive ones.
*Recruit families. Look for families who are possible foster
homes. Most family styles are good potentials: working couples,
retired couples, single adults, couples with children. Ask if
they’ve ever considered foster care. Make your approach
nonthreatening and encouraging.
*Embrace foster kids. Welcome children in foster homes into the
church family. Encourage them to get involved in your children’s
ministry program. Love them as Christ would and recognize your
responsibility to help nurture them.
*Give a break. Weary, struggling foster parents sometimes need
“respite care.” Respite caregivers take children for short periods.
Or you can give parents a break by giving kids rides to church or
school activities. Offer to run errands for tired foster parents.
Encourage church members to donate services to foster families;
handymen, carpenters, doctors, dentists, therapists, and lawyers
can join the foster parent’s team to help troubled children.
*Honor foster families. Include these families in the lighting
of Advent candles or other special traditions and ceremonies.
Create a Christ-centered ceremony for foster families when they
take a new child and also when one leaves.
*Provide counseling. Foster families have unique problems and
special needs. By providing support, you can help them get through
the difficult times. For counseling referrals or other information,
call the National Foster Parent Association Inc. at (713)
*Contribute money. Although financial compensation covers the
basic cost of caring for a foster child, it doesn’t cover any
extras. Your church could start a fund to help foster parents with
birthday or Christmas presents, school clothing, and art or hobby
supplies. “It’s time to stop waiting for them-the government-to
solve the problem,” says White. “They’re failing. It’s time for
Christians to look to ourselves and our resources-the church. We
are a strong community. Inside the community are many people who
can keep their perspective, set reasonable goals, and yell for help
when they need it. They’re the people who can make a
Lonni Collins Pratt is a free-lance writer in Michigan.
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