recently been sick and in the hospital. During the stay, I
was notified via text that my services were no longer needed.”
leadership council chose to pull the plug. And deliver the
unexpected news via text message.
people-staff and members alike-seem drawn into petty conflicts that
lead predictably into destruction. And this self-inflicted wounding
is killing the church-from the inside out.
interactions she deals with during a typical week. “These people
are constantly fighting,” she said. “Somebody is always mad at
someone for something.”
talking about God?”
cause people leave a church. Some never return-to any church.
in turf wars, passive-aggressiveness, insecurities, prideful
positioning, controlling behaviors, and personnel buffoonery.
selfishness, and side-taking over staff members. In some churches
it becomes a matter of team spirit. Members decide and declare
whether they’re on the pro-minister team or the anti-minister
hurt people. That’s the insidious nature of church infighting. It
feeds on itself.
fought among themselves since the earliest days. It did not go
unnoticed among the Bible’s writers. In his letters to the
Corinthians, Paul warned about the folly of going through the
motions of church without the central acting out of love for
another. No manner of eloquent speaking, accurate exegesis or
service to the needy matters without love for another.
love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak
God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making
everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a
mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I
give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be
burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no
matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt
without love.” (1 Corinthians 13:1-3 MSG)
of their love for one another. So, if we want a strong church, a
significant church, a growing church, then we must first focus
inside-on loving one another.
first show the world how we on the inside love one another. How we
learn to get along. How we learn to disagree with decency and
civility. How we learn to work out our differences. How we learn to
deal directly and tactfully with one another. How we learn to
forgive one another.
we clean up our house on the inside we’re not ready to invite
guests from the outside.