How to beat the “giants” that stalk a small church children’s ministry
Imposing. Monstrous. Unbeatable.
Such are the “giants” that stalk a small church. If left to roam, they can erode our confidence, steal our joy, and squelch our mission. Nearly every children’s ministry faces tough odds, but small churches are more tender when attacked.
Yet difficulties need not pummel a small church. Rather, think big! Where problems dwell, build possibilities. And where obstacles stand, seek opportunities!
Successful children’s ministry in small congregations is rooted in our mind-set-in seeking positive solutions to imposing problems. Consider the following “Goliaths”…and dare to be a David!
THE POCKETBOOK BLUES
Smaller churches are notorious for tight budgets. And, in children’s ministry, that means walking away from some great (and costly) programming. If dollar-stretching were an Olympic event, many a small church would mine gold.
The answer is to be creative. I once planned a “Little Rascals” film festival (featuring over five films) and paid less than a buck to my local library! In fact, dozens of inexpensive resources abound within communities, including low- to no-cost goods from fast-food restaurants, Christian bookstores, and entertainment outlets.
And don’t forget the resources within your church! Big back yards. VCRs. Animal farms. Vans. And computers. We once threw a free “burger bash” compliments of a deacon who owned the restaurant.
A FEW GOOD PEOPLE
Most small churches suffer from volunteer shortage. Our problem is that we often overlook potential volunteers. The church leaders in one small Montana church had exhausted all efforts to find a volunteer for five kids. On the edge of shutting down the program, they discovered a 70-year-old gem. She was hardly “hip” in youth culture. She had no curriculum and knew nothing about programming frills. She just loved kids. Five years later, she’s still loving them-all 30 of them!
Children’s ministry volunteers can be anybody-parents, senior citizens, singles, and even teenagers.
WHERE IS EVERYBODY?
Ever planned the “greatest event that nobody came to”? Remember the frustration? the anger? Low turnout occurs in every program-no matter the size. But what’s a headache for large churches is a migraine for small churches.
Be careful how you react to low attendance. If you ask, “Where’s Julie?” or “What happened to Miguel?” you’re asking the wrong crowd and sending a dangerous message.
Instead of investigating who’s not there (and why), celebrate those who are there! After all, continual absentee inquisitions will only suggest to children that they matter more when they’re absent!
It’s better to be prepared. Low turnouts are inevitable, so have a backup plan. Go for pizza. Play in a park. See a movie. Celebrate kids’ presence, rather than sending them home.
Here’s the bottom line: Don’t count kids; make kids count!
Smaller churches have an inbred dilemma-far more jobs than people. So the few tend to wear multiple hats. Teaching the fourth-graders. Sweeping the sanctuary. Mailing the newsletter. Driving the church van. No one specializes in a small church because there’s too much to do.
Smaller churches can better prepare people for ministry by creating job descriptions for children’s workers. List the responsibilities. Implement short-term, definitive commitments rather than open-ended, “until you die” responsibilities.
Finally, reward volunteers. Honor children’s workers in church services. Create a Children’s Worker of the Month program. Affirm volunteers with personal letters, phone calls, and visits.
If you pat a back, they’ll be back.
SPACE: THE FINAL FRONTIER
Space is a huge obstacle in children’s programming-in any size church. Unfortunately, that’s because most churches are built for adults, not kids. Classrooms are constructed for table discussions, not active-learning experiences. And fellowship areas are made for coffee, not kickball.
In a decade of children’s ministry, I’ve seen small churches put kids in every conceivable space. The church kitchen. Back-room closets. Attics. Furthermore, I’ve held children’s meetings in a variety of places-from baptistry dressing rooms to renovated mobile homes.
Of course, few were satisfactory. But none were beyond hope. The secret is to let the kids “own” their room. Allow them to decorate it. Paint it. Clean it. Stock it. If it’s theirs, they’ll meet anywhere, including the preacher’s office!
Now, there’s an idea.
THE GREEN-EYED MONSTER
Contentment is hard in small-church ministry. It’s difficult to feel satisfied. Especially if you’ve got the First Church of Effective Children’s Ministry two doors down, bulging with ideas, money, and kids. Against the blade of “success,” failure can cut deep.
But numbers are relative. Success is not in numbers as much as it is in ministry. If changed lives are produced, it won’t matter whether it’s five or 50.
One issue for smaller churches is crucial: Stop seeking success for success’s sake! Desiring to be a Wal-Mart is fine, but few corner shops ever see 25 aisles of merchandising. It’s far better to succeed in a few things than ultimately fail in many. Specializing is the answer. Give your program a unique signature. Develop a top-rate children’s church, a quality after-school program, or a ministry to children from broken homes.
Success isn’t pulling off “blue-light” specials. Success is having repeat customers. Again, and again, and again.
Nobody said children’s ministry in a small church would be easy. But nobody told David he had Goliath’s number either. Big jobs mean hard choices. Tough situations require determined people. “Giants” will always roam a children’s ministry. And they’ll continue to taunt, trick, and test our resolve. But giving in will never produce success.
So face the giants…and dare to sling the stone!
Rick Chromey is the co-author of Thriving Youth Ministry in Small Churches (Group Publishing.) and Energizing Children’s Ministry in the Smaller Church (Standard Publishing). Please keep in mind that phone numbers, addresses, and prices are subject to change.