When family life seems like a race with no finish line,
use this retreat to help families set their lives in
WHY THIS RETREAT IS IMPORTANT
Soccer practice, yardwork, church activities, a briefcase of work
hauled home from the office, and homework all around. It seems
there’s never an end to families’ busyness!
Help your families get organized with a back-to-school retreat
that’ll guide them in scheduling activities.
During this retreat, parents and children will
*evaluate their priorities according to their use of time,
*complete one month’s planning of events, and
*look for ways to bring more balance into their lives.
6:30 p.m.-Hurry, Hurry
6:45 p.m.-Drive-Through Dinner
7:30 p.m.-Share Art
8:15 p.m.-Popcorn Good Nights
8:40 p.m.-Board Games
9:45 a.m.-Setting Priorities
10:45 a.m.-Warning Ball
1:00 p.m.-What’s Gotta Go?
2:00 p.m.-Balloon Shepherds
2:30 p.m.-Free Time
4:30 p.m.-Family Calendar Meetings
5:45 p.m.-Wrap Up
Sandwich ingredients, chips, drinks, cups, plates, napkins, paper,
crayons, popcorn, pingpong balls or marshmallows, pencils, a Bible,
Nerf or other soft balls, large blank calendars, colored pencils,
balloons, brooms, and chairs. Have family members bring their
personal calendars or planners.
[THE RETREAT] *Hurry, Hurry-Have each family prepare their meal-only spread the
ingredients all over the room so they have to frantically
*Say: You have only five minutes to prepare your meal. Go.
Observe how families work to accomplish the task. Call time after
five minutes. Tell families to finish their meal preparation and
find an area to sit with just their family.
*Drive-Through Dinner-Have families arrange chairs in groups
with chairs facing one direction. Have each family sit as if
they’re in a car. Have family members discuss these questions as
they eat:* How well did we achieve our goal? How did it feel to be
How does being busy affect our family at home?
*Share Art-Give families paper and crayons. Have family members
each draw pictures showing what others in their family like to do
most. Then have family members explain their pictures. Have them
discuss:* How well did others know your interests? What other
things do you want our family to know about you? What did you learn
about others in our family?
How can we be sure each family member gets to do what he or she
*Popcorn Good Nights-Give each family a bowl of popcorn.
Have one person feed a piece of popcorn to each family member,
saying “I like you because…” and filling in the blank. Then pass
the bowl to another family member who does the same thing. Continue
until everyone has had a turn. Then have families share sentence
prayers, hugs, and the rest of the popcorn.
*Board Games-Bring out games for everyone to play until
*Juggling-Give each person three pingpong balls or other small
items such as marshmallows. Ask everyone to juggle one item first,
then add the second item. Have people who aren’t able to juggle two
items sit down. Then add a third item. Again, have those who can’t
juggle three items sit down. If anyone is still standing, add more
items until you have a champion juggler. Applaud the champion.
*Ask: What makes juggling difficult? easy? When do you feel as
if you’re juggling activities in real life?
*Say: To keep life from seeming like a juggling contest, we have
to be organized.
Read aloud Psalm 90:12 and Ephesians 5:15-16. Have families
discuss:* What connection does use of time have to do with being
wise? What do these verses tell us that God wants us to do with our
time? How can applying these verses to our home life help our
*Setting Priorities-Give each person a sheet of paper and a
*Say: Think about regular commitments you have. We’ll call these
These are activities such as church meetings, sports practice,
clubs, Bible studies, work, and school.
Have everyone make a list of Predictable Events. Parents and
older children can help younger children.
Then *say: Number the items on your list in the order that you
When everyone is finished, *say: Let’s take a break from our
lists and read about two women who had different approaches to
Read aloud Luke 10:38-42, and have each family discuss these
questions:* Which sister are you most like? Are you happy about
this? Why or why not? How does your ranking of activities reflect
which sister you’re most like? Which activities not on your list do
you wish were on you list?
*Say: Add to your list items such as leisure time, family fun, and
other things you discussed.
Have family members discuss their revised lists. Then take a
*Warning Ball-Form pairs. Line up with partners facing each
other. Have partners stand about 5 feet apart. Give all the players
on one side of the line a soft ball such as a tennis or Nerf
Explain that the players with the balls will be throwing them to
their partners. The tricky part is that the person catching the
ball must keep his or her eyes closed until the ball is released.
The thrower gives the warning that the ball has been thrown by
yelling, “Look!” At that time, the catcher may open his or her eyes
and quickly catch the ball. Have participants lob the ball softly
so it’s easy to catch.
Have participants try once or twice with their eyes open, then
try with their eyes closed. No one is eliminated if the ball is
dropped. Simply try again and again until the ball is caught. Then
have catchers move back 3 feet and toss the ball to their partners
in the same manner.
Repeat the game with partners not opening their eyes, but
letting their partners know the ball has been tossed.
Afterward, *ask: How did your warning system work?
Can you think of a better way to let your partner know what’s
coming? How do you feel when you’re surprised by an event that
wasn’t scheduled well with the rest of the family?
*Say: In this game, we warned our partners by communicating with
words. It’s that way with our schedules too. We need to let family
members know what we’re doing so there are no surprises.
*What’s Gotta Go?-Have families retrieve their lists from the
“Setting Priorities” activity. Give each family one calendar with
large daily spaces, and give each family member a different color
pencil to represent his or her activities. Families may also choose
a different color to represent all-family activities.
Using their Predictable Events lists and personal calendars,
have families plan their schedules for the upcoming month. Have
them write notes in appropriate colors as family members identify
*Say: Now that you’ve listed Predictable Events, add in
Occasional Events. These would be things such as doctors’
appointments, special church meetings, or other activities that
don’t happen regularly. If you don’t know these right now, you can
add them later.
Allow time to do this.
*Say: As you look at your calendars, discuss how activities
affect other family members. For example, sports practice may be a
child’s activity, but if it requires a parent or older sibling to
drive, it affects others.
*Ask: Which items on your calendars affect several family
members? Are there days or weeks that seem too busy? If yes, what
can be done to cut down on the busyness?
Have families make necessary adjustments to their calendars during
their discussions. Then take a break.
*Balloon Shepherds-Give each family five balloons of one color
and a broom. Give each family a different color. Have families
inflate their balloons. Set two chairs at the far end of the room
about 3 feet apart. Have families choose one member to “shepherd”
their balloons between the chairs using the broom. Every 15
seconds, blow a whistle and switch Shepherds within each family.
Congratulate the family that rounds up all its balloons first.
Play again if time allows.
*Say: Just as the balloons seemed to be going in different
directions, family members are often going in different directions
too. This makes it tough to keep families organized. Let’s get back
to our calendars.
*Family Calendar Meetings-Ask families to pencil in weekly
10-minute family meetings where they’ll look at the coming week to
fill in and evaluate events. Have them decide where to hang their
Family Calendars at home.
Also, have families discuss ways they can make communicating
easier, such as having a message board.
*Ask: Is there a central location for phone messages and notes
from teachers or coaches?
Think of other ways to let others know your schedule and any
changes to it.
*Wrap Up-*Say: We can grow as a family if we use our time wisely
and keep a balance of work and rest.
Ask everyone to remember Mary and Martha. Have family members
again share which sister they’re most like, then tell one reason
this is good and one way they’d like to grow more like the other
sister. For example, Janice might say, “I’m most like Mary. This is
good because I take time to laugh each day. I’d like to grow more
like Martha in remembering to make my bed before school each
Then have families pray together and thank God for each family
member. Have them ask God to help them use their new calendar to
provide more time for enjoying each other.