10 Kidmin Habits to Break



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Habit  (noun) is an acquired
behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost
involuntary; a settled or regular tendency or practice, esp. one
that is hard to give up; repeated actions that are holding your
ministry back

I had a church leader tell me a story about a husband and wife. The
couple were preparing for dinner. The wife cut the end off a ham
and placed it on a roasting pan. The husband asked why she cut the
end off, and the wife, unsure, explained that her mother always did
it that way. She called her mom to ask why she cut the end of the
ham off, and the mother explained thathermother always cut the end
off as well. The two then called the grandmother to ask why they
cut the ends off hams. The grandmother explained, “I don’t know why
you two cut the ends off, but my roasting pan was too small.”

Sometimes we have habits that come from years of tradition and
don’t even remember why we did it that way to begin with. It’s just
been the way we always did it. Other times, we form habits because
it makes life easier for us. Whatever the case, there are some
habits it’s time to break.

What are some kidmin habits we need to stop? What’s holding us
back from being the best we can be? Here’s our list of habits to
put a stop to:

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1. Stop answering your own questions before you give your kids a
chance to think about it.

2. Speaking of questions, stop asking recall questions. Get to
the heart of the message.

3. Stop
using rewards.

4. Stop focusing on bad behavior. Make your lessons more
interactive, focus on good behavior, and if problems continue, work
with parents to find the cause.

5. And speaking of bad behavior, here’s one from Gordon and
Becki West (KidZ at Heart International)… “Don’t make rules based
on what annoys you-and especially what’s annoying youright
now.” Before correcting a child, ask yourself if a rule’s
truly been broken or if it’s just something that’s getting on your

6. Stop
saying “should.

7. Stop looking at other departments in your church as us vs.
them when it comes to funds, time, space…work as a team.

8. Stop begging for volunteers during announcement time in
church. Ask people one-on-one and appeal to their specific

Stop saying “Bible story.

10. Stop thinking bigger is better. Most large churches will say
they work hard to give a small-church feel to their Sunday


What habits would you add to this list? Let us know using the
comment section below.

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About Author

David Jennings

David has served kids around the world for the majority of his life. From Texas to Romania, he has followed where God has led him. Most recently, he served for six years as a children's director in the great state of Alabama before moving to Colorado to work for Group as an associate editor.


  1. Children's Ministry Magazine

    Barb, thank you for reading!

    It would depend on the circumstance…but something easy would be saying, "Instead of saying, "In our Bible story today," you could say, "In the Bible today." Instead of Bible Story time, you just have Bible time.

    If you'd like, you can click #9's sentence above to get more information.

  2. Children's Ministry Magazine

    I say Bible event. I make an effort to communicate that the Bible is real. I am also clear when the scripture is a story being told (example: parables).

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